The perfect dad.
NO, definitely I don’t want to be “the prefect dad or father”.
I’d rather be the “the dad my children need”.
Spoiler alert: More explanation on the way AND it is very explicit, don’t later say I didn’t warn you; let’s be honest the stupid society will criticize you on every single detail you DON’T DO. Yes, what you avoid doing, normally what the “masses do” is what becomes the “new correct thing to do”, from the stupid TikTok challenges to the stupid need of Instagram stories to show off what your deepest mental disorders/complexes are, of course dumb people won’t know even that those complexes exist, I bet the only garbage they read in their lives is the zodiac forecast for their lives or that kind of existential crap nowadays has become very popular on “cool people”.
SO, one of these days I was thinking, should I be the “perfect dad” as depicted on social networks and stupid societies? Let me totally honest with you and avoid politically correct: FUCK NO!
Yes, I know, there might be “sensitive people” that as we speak will say “hey don’t be so disrespectful for using the f word”; like I assume you sensitive guys have a life of only Bethoven, Ghandi and Pope words every single day… clearly that’s BS, for latinos, most of you have a daily dose of regueton where … you know the rest. So, using the f word while being explicit about my views on the stupid stuff societies sell nowadays of course not, it’s definitely not “disrespectful”. You are welcome.
So, following up with my topic, I’ve seen people saying that they are the best dads because:
- They buy every single stuff the kid wanted.
- They never say “NO” to the kids because you know I’m a cool/modern dad and psychology…
- They never correct the kids during a tantrum/drama.
- They will be willing to give the kids the tvshows, electronic devices, that crap to “help raising a baby”.
- They “provide home with all the monies so kids don’t have any unfulfilled needs”.
- They show on social networks every single stupid thing to “tell the others how proud I am of my children”.
- They have the best birthday parties for the children we ever attended.
- They give the children the best vacation trips others can’t have.
Oh, my favorite one:
- “I want my kids have all of that, that I never had”.
So on, so on, the classic same old same old.
SO, this humble human thinking about all that stuff, coming down to earth to one of the BEST statements ever said: “Don’t give your kids everything you never had, but INSTEAD TEACH YOUR KIDS EVERYTHING YOU DIDN’T KNOW”. I consider myself one of the “oldschools” that will not shut down completely on the new stuff but INSTEAD will analyze all the new stuff and disregard the GARBAGE the new trendings are telling me and use the best, which in lips of this humble writer is: CRITICAL THINKING.
CRITICAL THINKING could be rephrased as the difference between being marketed to doing something AND doing something because you have reasons for, along with those lines, it’s very “reasoning” then to think that stupid societies will tell you a lot of stuff to do but your task as a father/mother, PARENTING in general (and I really mean REAL PARENTING, not the PROTO-PARENTING, that one, some people found out when suddenly there was no period coming down and the surprise showed up… which is only biological behavioral, you are welcome) has the main task of avoid just following the mainstream but instead defining the Family Signature and teach the kids based on that, among other side effects because: we simply don’t want to be little robots doing every stupid sh!t societies do.
So yes, society will tell me that I am a bad dad, perhaps the worst dad in the world, just because I am teaching my kids to be authentic, avoid the stupidity of the masses and build their own feature based on what they really need for a peaceful life, yes, that is the plan and guess what: I see it coming, society will complain and I am ready to tell those idiots: I DON’T GIVE A PIECE, THE SMALLEST, OF SHIT!
Why: because my main mission is to create PROPER ADULTS, not to follow the society’s standards, and of course NOT TO PLEASE anybody else. SO, society with your “best dad standards” BEAT IT! Again: you are welcome.
AND to you dearest readers that made it all the way up to here, thank you so much, if you agree with this: Welcome to resistance!
The tension is here, between who you are and who you could be, between now it is and now it should be. I DARE YOU TO MOVE! (thank you Jon Foreman).